How Do I Write A Texas Letter of Intent for Child Custody?

Always show legitimate reasons to get child custody
Always show legitimate reasons to get child custody
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Imagine wanting to get full custody of your children. Imagine having to go to court to do it. And then imagine having to testify in front of a judge about it. If all that sounds a little intimidating, you are in good company. The good news is, there is an alternative: You may be able to write a letter of intent for custody. Is this right for your case? Here’s what you need to know to help you decide.

What Is A Letter of Intent for Custody?

The letter is essentially written testimony for the judge to review. It is commonly called a declaration. The purpose of the declaration is to formally state your desire to have full custody of your child. The letter includes evidence and reasons why you think you should have custody of your children.

Note that in Texas, the term for “sole custody” is sole managing conservatorship. This means that, in addition to having the children live with you, you also have the sole legal authority to make decisions about their education, health care, and general well-being.

The letter of custody intent will be reviewed by the judge. If your spouse has an attorney, he or she also will examine this letter, and likely will challenge it. Therefore, it is very important to write a letter correctly.

Key Points about the Letter of Custody Intent

While it is important to write this letter correctly, you also should not feel overwhelmed. Remember that the court knows you are not a lawyer, and does not expect you to sound like one. Here are some key things to remember about the letter of intent for custody:

  • Use “bullet points,” to make your key points, as we have done here.
  • State your ideas in plain language, using your own words. Stick with facts. 
  • Avoid calling your spouse names and making any personal attacks.
  • Provide any evidence you have. This may include photos or pay stubs. (If any of your documents have a Social Security number or other personal information, be sure to black it out.) 
  • Make sure your custody requests are reasonable. For example, it’s usually not wise to demand that your spouse be kept permanently from the children.
  • While it’s important to be thorough, try to also be brief. The judge probably will not want to read a 100-page letter of intent for custody. 
  • Acknowledge that you are making these statements under oath and under penalty of perjury. 

Your Letter of Custody Intent Should Address Relevant Issues

In terms of child custody, the judge will decide mom or dad or both will get child custody
In terms of child custody, the judge will decide mom or dad or both will get child custody

Before you write your declaration, make sure you are aware of any other relevant custody documents that have been filed.

For example, in Texas, judges do not make decisions based on who they think is the “better person.” Instead, they make custody decisions based upon what they think is in the best interests of the children. You should try to use this information to your advantage. Use your letter of intent for custody to make clear why it is in the best interests of the children to be with you.

You can also use the declaration to address the objections of your spouse. For example, if your spouse has claimed that the children don’t want to spend time with you, you can cite examples and provide photos to prove this wrong.

An Outline Can Help You Get Started with Your Letter of Intent for Custody

Writing a legal document can feel a little intimidating. To get started, try writing an outline. 

For example, imagine your letter of custody intent could only be five sentences long. To get your point across, you will have to write some very direct sentences. For example,  “For the last five years, I have been the primary caregiver for the children,” and “My spouse has repeatedly stated that she is not interested in helping raise our kids.”

The outline will help you organize your thoughts and clarify the key points you want to make in the letter of intent for custody. It also will make the next step easier. 

Writing Your Letter of Intent for Custody 

Start by introducing yourself. Briefly explain what you are requesting from the court. Example: “Jane Smith and I were married in May 2011. We had our first child in July of 2013, and another in December 2015. I am asking for full physical custody for me and supervised visitation for my wife.

Use the outline to help you expand on your points. What are some simple, specific examples of how you have been the primary caregiver? What are some specific times when your spouse said she was not interested in raising the kids? Has your spouse done anything in the past that endangered the well-being of the children?

Try not to let your emotions carry you away as you write your letter of intent for custody. It does not help to say, “My spouse has never been good for anything.” Instead, stick with the facts, providing as many specific examples as possible. Examples of Factual Statements in a Letter of Custody Intent

“If the children live with me, they will not have to change schools.”

“Last month, the court ordered my spouse to attend anger management classes.”

“On April 10,11, 16, and 18, the school called me because my spouse had forgotten to pick up the children.”

Five Tips for Writing a Strong Letter of Intent for Custody

Your attorney will provide both the legal expertise and the Family Court experience to provide your best shot at successful child custody.
Your attorney will provide both the legal expertise and the Family Court experience to provide your best shot at successful child custody.
  1. Be as accurate as possible. If you don’t remember a specific detail, it’s okay to admit it. Example: “On or about on August 13, my spouse …” Also, do not exaggerate in your declaration. “My husband has never spent a single penny on the kids” probably is not true.
  2. If you wish to include second-hand information, you should make an effort to verify it. You can also have a witness provide a written statement. 
  3. As mentioned above, avoid personal attacks. When judges are making decisions about a letter of intent for custody, one of the things they consider is which parent is most likely to help facilitate the children’s relationship with the other parent.
  4. Tell the truth. If the court finds out you have intentionally lied or withheld key information, the judge may be upset with you. And it could jeopardize your custody request.
  5. Have Someone Else Review Your Letter of Intent for Custody. More on this below. 

And as mentioned, your letter of custody intent should also include any relevant evidence, such as pay stubs or photos. 

How to Have Someone Review a Letter of Intent for Custody

  • Ask the person to check it for spelling, punctuation, missing words, etc.
  • Ask them to review your style. Did you stick with the facts, or did you make petty attacks? Did you ramble on too long?
  • Is the format correct? Many courts require that the form include specific information, in a specific format. In Tarrant County, you can get help by calling 817-884-1111.
  • A trusted friend can review the letter of intent for custody for you. However, we recommend you have your letter reviewed by an experienced divorce attorney. Given the potential complexity and emotions of a custody case, we believe most people will be much better off having the support of an experienced divorce attorney.

The Last Step is to Sign and File Your Letter of Intent for Custody

Your county family court can advise you on the specific procedures for this. But as noted, given the importance of this letter, we recommend you hire an experienced attorney. Keep in mind that, even if you do write a letter, you may still have to testify in court. At the least, the judge is probably going to have some questions for you.

This is another reason why the letter of intent for custody is so important. Before you get to court, you can use it to help organize your thoughts. The letter also can help you stay focused during what might be a very stressful situation. 

Last, keep in mind that even if you write a perfect letter of custody intent, there is always a possibility that the judge may deny your request. However, in the event this happens, you still have an opportunity to file an appeal.

In a Difficult Custody Case, An Experienced Attorney is A Crucial Ally

After decades of successful Texas Child Custody clients, attorney Sean Lynch knows what is needed to fight for your case.
After decades of successful Texas Child Custody clients, attorney Sean Lynch knows what is needed to fight for your case.

Even under the best circumstances, a custody case can be emotional and exhausting. That’s because you’re not just thinking about yourself: You’re also thinking about your children. 

If you are going through a divorce or custody case, don’t risk going it alone. And don’t risk relying on someone who is not very experienced. Attorney Sean Lynch is known as one of the best divorce attorneys in Tarrant County.

The associates at Sean Lynch Law have the skill and experience to help you successfully navigate a difficult divorce or custody case. They offer you a no-cost, 30-minute case consultation. Call them today at 817-668-5879. 

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